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Write a Love Letter to your Business

Have you ever written a love letter to your business as if it were a person you're dating? 

Girlfriends and I have been reading John Gray's Mars & Venus on a Date to refresh our memories of the 5 stages of dating: 

  1. Attraction (aka chemistry)
  2. Uncertainty (aka dating multiple people)
  3. Exclusivity (aka commitment)
  4. Intimacy (aka sex)
  5. Engagement (aka trial run for marriage)

We laughed, very hard, about how often we jumped from Stage 1 Attraction to Stage 4 Intimacy.

We skipped Stage 2 Uncertainty because of scarcity. Culture conditioned women to think: no one else will want you, so better accept this one who is right in front of you.

We skipped Stage 3 Exclusivity because of low self-esteem. Culture has conditioned women to think: if we don't give him sex, he will leave us.

So, so, so many super intelligent, epically capable, radiantly beautiful women have done this. We could spend years in therapy dissecting why that is... or we could re-purpose this wisdom for bigger, better things.

 

Are you exclusive with your business?

Really think about it: are you 1000% exclusive and committed to your business (Stage 3 Exclusivity)?

Or... are you just flirting with other businesses (Stage 2 Uncertainty), other sources of income, other trainings that have nothing to do with your commitment to your online freedom business?

Really think about it...

As long as you don't decide and commit to your business with a force strong enough to make the Earth stop spinning, your business will never bear fruit. It won't devote itself to you, it won't yield prosperity, it won't set you free.

Note: If you're in the first year of building your business, then yes, you might take on a "douse job" (not a "day job"). A day job is soul sucking. A "douse job" is a non challenging part-time gig, to douse the flames of anxiety and the bonfire of fear, so you can grow your freedom business.

 

My Love Letter to my Business

Dear Business,

Ay, I'm so sorry I've neglected you. You've given me so much flexibility and freedom in where I want to live and when I want to work. I'm so sorry I haven't given you more time and affection and care. You deserve better.  It's been a very tough Spring and Summer, with selling mom's mold-infested house, getting rid of dad's things [after his passing] and going to Somatic Experiencing Sessions (SE) to heal decades of PTSD.

I know, it's no excuse to ignore you when you've been the vehicle for me to express my life's purpose and the springboard for me to become the best leader, friend, lover and sister I can be. If the shoes were reversed, I would have broken up with me long ago. Hahaha. No, I know it's not funny. LOL! It's sorta funny. Ok, it's not funny. I don't see you laughing.

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Had an SE session today but because I left my phone at home, I didn't know that my session got rescheduled. I arrived and was asked to return in 1.5 hrs. I smiled and said of course, and skipped out of there joyfully. Before I met you, I would taken out a titanium bat and pummelled myself into the ground for forgetting my phone (drama queen, I know), I would have dove head first into the well of victimhood and how life is always f***ing with me. Yeah, I wouldn't date me either :P

You made me a better person. YOU made me this skippitty-hoppity joyful being. Well... technically... the mother-f****** excruciating lessons you put me through made me a better person, but who's splitting hairs here. You've grown me beyond what I imagined possible. You've tested me past the breaking point and called me forth to piece myself back together and rise.

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If you weren't there urging me to keep going, I don't know where I'd be today. And for this constant companionship, calling forth of my greatness and relentless belief in me, I ask for your forgiveness. Forgive me for having neglected you. Forgive me for having demanded lemonade from you when I only planted the seeds last week. Forgive me for dumping all my burdens onto you. 

From the depths of my soul, I thank you for having turned clients into friends, friends into roommates, roommates into soul sisters and soul sisters into family. I finally, FINALLY feel like I belong in this world, regardless of geography. Thank you for eradicating any possiblity of  moronic male boss who don't have my talent but take all the credit for my work. I thank you for allowing me the luxurious time to float in a Hammam all day long in the middle of the week or lie on the beach for hours every day listening to audiobooks.

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You've given me so much and instead of saying "I'm so not deserving of you", you've taught me to say, "Thank you, I am devoted to you too."

What next?

What would your love letter to your business say?

Freedom on!

xo, Ella

Ellany LeaAbout the Author • Ellany Lea is an elite success coach. She's traveled 100+ countries and writes about freedom at the intersection of: entrepreneurship, enlightenment, and enchantment.
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