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The difference between Overworked Overachievers and Happy Overachievers

I'm in Georgetown, Guyana, and I gotta admit, there's not much to do or see here. On this freedom quest to experience every country in the world, there certainly are places that are just "meh" to me.

On the bright side, it gave me plenty of time to cross-reference your questions and puzzles and share what I discovered this fine Sunday morning (or afternoon or evening, depending on where you are in the world) 

Less is more. Less is better.

You know the saying "Less is more"? I don't agree. Less is not more. Less is better. Many of the puzzles you've sent it speak to navigating the murky waters between being an overworked overachiever vs. a happy overachiever. 

Overworked Overachievers

Happy Overachievers

Don't sleep, don't play, achieve more, achieve more, achieve more

 

Sleep, play, reflect to protect and nurture the person/source/ability to achieve
Commit to everything Discern top 3 important goals from a flurry of distractions before committing
Run around with a fire extinguisher putting out other people's fire Navigate their life by following their inner North Star
Say yes to everyone out of guilt or awkwardness (then resent everyone) Say no gracefully, knowing no is a full sentence
Find creative way to do it all Choose a few things to go big on
See choice as a loss, as a deprivation (of something they never had) See choice as a trade off: say no to the good to say yes to the great
Don't set boundaries for fear of being disliked Set empowering boundaries in advance so no need to say no later
People please to be liked or popular, or to fit in Forego short-term popularity for long-term respect
Are victim to sunken cost: I've already invested so much, if I just put in more I can make it work! Know when to cut their loses: What else could I do with my time and resources?
Procrastinate and blindly assumes the best case scenario Prepare buffers and cushions for a rainy day
Focuses on past regrets (depression) and future worries (anxiety) Focuses on the NOW and practices presence
Wanders aimlessly on a vague uninspiring altruistic goal (eg. I want to help people) or materialistic goal (eg. I want a bigger house) Takes action based on clear, uplifting, energized and meaningful strategies (eg. I want all children to have a home)
Throws around lofty goals and intentions which lead to small results Consistently takes action on small achievable goals and celebrates every small progress
When things go awry, adds more quick fixes or random projects When things go awry, stops and radically removes more busyness, obligations and projects

What's your tally?

Out of 14, how many times did you fall into the overworked overachievers bucket vs the happy overachiever bucket? Reply, tell me your score, how did it make you feel?

Next Sunday's questions & puzzles

Many ladies have also asked:

  • when you have so many talents and ideas, how are you supposed to choose just one thing?
  • once you stop living according to what other people think, how do you figure out who you're truly meant to be?
  • what to do when you took time off to figure out what's next, but you still don't have any free time?

Sending you sunshine if you just got snow-dumped,

xo, Ella